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Masturbation

While historically it has been a practice that was severely frowned upon, now it's becoming regarded as an essential part of sexual development: masturbation. It's almost viewed as a dirty word, yet practically everyone on the planet does it - yes women too - so it has to be called something! Masturbation may be defined as a deliberate act of sexual self-pleasuring involving direct stimulation.

Many women masturbate for the first time during their first teenage years or even earlier, often before they really even know what it is they are up to; all they know is that it feels good. A woman's first orgasm or climax is generally achieved in this manner. It is best to consider masturbation a sexual building block; if a young woman knows which methods will bring her pleasure, she will more effective at communicating this to her future partner. Considering that about ¼ of North American women don't have orgasms, it would seem a necessary step to experiment as to what works for you without any embarrassment.

In years past, and even now to a lesser degree, masturbation had a very negative stigma attached to it. Many religions, including Christianity and Judaism still consider it to be a sin, and therefore caution against the behavior. Everyone must have heard the famous line "Don't touch yourself, or you'll go blind!" It was even considered to cause many illnesses including insanity! As late as the first few decades of the 20th century devices were invented which were designed to prevent people from engaging in this conduct! That said, the majority of people today are starting to become less rigid in their opinions regarding this behavior, although they often hide the fact that they do it themselves.

Guilt is a common feeling associated with masturbation, for reasons previously stated. It is important for you to learn how to feel comfortable with your own body, its various responses, and view yourself as a sexual being. Try to realize that your resulting sexual pleasure is a positive outcome as opposed to a negative one! The inability to overcome feelings of guilt is one of the major factors in why so many women are unable to achieve orgasm. There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty about deriving pleasure from sex - either by yourself or with a partner.

There are many different techniques that women use to masturbate, some of which you may have tried, or at least heard of. It is important to note at this time that few women use exactly the same method, which is quite different then men, who tend to masturbate in much the same way. It is a good idea to experiment with different methods, so that you can learn to achieve orgasm (if you find yourself currently unable to), or discover how you can enhance your level of pleasure. The most popular method, and one of the easiest to administer is manual stimulation of the clitoris by rubbing, stroking or squeezing either directly or indirectly. As the tip, or glans of the clitoris is very sensitive, direct stimulation for any length of time feels uncomfortable or even painful to most people, it is preferable instead to stimulate the clitoris by applying pressure to the mons, or rubbing or squeezing the vaginal lips together. In this way you will be able to adjust the intensity of pressure and rhythm as you go along approach orgasm.

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