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Keeping Your Sex Life Fresh
Chapter 2
For those that do require more diversity in their sex lives, then
there are additional ways you can make it a little more exciting.
If you normally practice the old standards (the missionary position
or woman on top), add some other positions to your repertoire! A
popular position with women is the side position, where both partners
lie on their side facing each other. Or try the spoon position;
with both of you lying on your side with the man's face facing the
woman's back, this is a pleasant variant of the former. The rear
entry position, or doggy style, is generally a sure-fire turn on
for most men as it is visually stimulating. The seated variation,
wherein the man is in a sitting position and the woman straddles
his lap, facing him is additionally a great diversion from the norm.
Many women like this one as they have a lot of control over the
tempo and depth of intercourse. Depending on the strength and agility
that you both possess, the standing position can also be fun. The
man stands up, usually leaning on a wall or otherwise supporting
himself, and the woman wraps her legs around his waist and holds
on to his shoulders. To achieve this successfully, the woman requires
strong legs to keep herself from falling and the man requires a
lot of upper body strength to help hold her up. Needless to say,
positions such as this one can usually only be kept up for short
periods of time. Above are only some of the basic variations to
try, but there are dozens more. If you are running short on ideas,
try the Kama Sutra for some helpful
suggestions.
Perhaps all you need to make your sex more exciting is a new location.
If you live together, you probably usually have sex in your bed.
Try an alternate location in your house, places like the couch,
the bathroom counter, the basement, wherever you want - just make
sure the furniture you choose will hold your weight; you wouldn't
want your dining room table to collapse! You'll see that just being
in a different location will change everything. If you have a couple
of extra bucks, rent a hotel room for the weekend! There is nothing
like sex in a hotel room to liven things up a bit. Another place
that seems to excite most people is the outdoors. Have sex in your
backyard, on the beach or at a campground, although if it is winter
exercise some caution so that you don't wind up with frostbite!
You may additionally wish to mind prying eyes, as a jail cell may
not be your idea of a hot variation in your sexual locale repertoire.
Aside from altering what you do and how and where you do it, here
are some other suggestions that may help get you out of your current
rut:
Try doing some role-playing,
pretend that you and your partner are people other than yourselves
to act out various scenarios. If you don't usually wear lingerie,
surprise your partner with a sexy new bedroom look. Buy some body
paint and exercise your creativity using your partner as your canvas.
Rent a sexy movie and watch it together in a candle-lit room drinking
a bottle of wine. You're only bound by your own imagination.
After being in a relationship for a long period of time, we tend
to fall into set behavioural patterns. Although these routines can
provide comfort and stability, there are benefits to periodically
altering them. Just because you are having sex with the same person
for years on end doesn't mean that it has to be predictable. Don't
be afraid of a little experimentation, and keep the lines of communication
open so that you can convey the things that you'd like to try, or
be able to say no if you don't feel particularly comfortable with
something. Like any aspect of a relationship, your sex life requires
you put some effort into making it new and exciting again. If you
are both using your imaginations, there is really no good reason
to have anything less than fantastic sex for the rest of your lives
together.
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