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Anal Sex
Chapter 2
There are different positions that work well for anal sex. The
woman lying on her stomach, or crouched on her knees, doggy-style
is probably the easiest. Also good is the man lying on his back,
with the woman facing him, straddling him, in a sitting position.
This allows you to control both the pace and the amount of penetration
that occurs. This may be difficult for first timers, as your anus
tightens up more this way because you are supporting most of your
weight on your legs.
As you gain more experience, you may wish to become more inventive
in the positions that you choose, incorporating lying side by side
or standing up - using a chair or similar object for support.
There are also many couples that practice analingus, sometimes
known as rimming. This is basically licking or sucking your partner's
anus. Some people will do this as a prelude to anal intercourse
and some people incorporate it when they are having regular oral-genital
sex. If you both maintain a good level of hygiene, then this shouldn't
pose a problem, and while most people (once they get used to the
idea) find the experience pleasurable, there is the added bonus
of no chance of pain or physical discomfort
Now would be a good time to mention that cleanliness is important
with any type of sex, particularly the anal variety. If you are
really hung up about it, take a bath or shower together first and
lather each other up, this can even be made to be part of your foreplay.
If you insert anything into the anus (finger, penis, dildo…),
make sure that it is washed thoroughly before you insert it into
the vagina or anywhere else. There are many types of bacteria that
live in our digestive tract that have no harmful effects there,
but may cause vaginal infections or other complications if the bacteria
gets inside. It is recommended that you use a condom when having
anal sex, even if you are with a long term partner that you know
has no sexually transmitted diseases. The rectal lining tears easily,
and bacteria may enter the bloodstream, causing infection. It is
important to mention that HIV virus is much more likely to be transmitted
during anal sex than it is during vaginal sex.
Remember that anal sex isn't for everyone, and that, if you decline
to participate; you are in the majority. In fact, most states even
have laws that make it technically illegal. If you don't want to
do it, don't; your husband or boyfriend should respect your
wishes. If you only want to be touched or rubbed, with no penetration
of any kind that's great, but if you do want to try it, insist on
a condom, lots of lubrication and immense amounts of patience and
support from your partner. Your best bet, as with all new forms
of sexual play, is to try to keep an open mind and not take things
too seriously if they don't work out quite as expected.
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