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Faking Orgasms

Remember that famous scene from the movie When Harry Met Sally? You know - the one where Meg Ryan fakes an orgasm, loudly, in the middle of the restaurant. It was hilarious, but that's because most women can relate to it. You do some moaning, groaning and screaming, followed by some "Yes, baby…harder!" and then top it off with some wiggling, shaking and writhing, and there you have it - an orgasm! Or rather something that resembles someone having an orgasm.

Whether men can tell if you are faking an orgasm is questionable, at best. It depends somewhat upon how many times you've been with that particular partner. If it is someone that you've been married to for 10 years, he probably knows you pretty well, or at least he should, and as a result, it would be fairly difficult to get him to fall for your theatrics. If, on the other hand you have just begun dating this guy, he probably wouldn't have enough sexual experience with you to be able to tell the difference. Obviously, how good an actor you might be additionally figures large in the success of your deception. For example, if you start laughing in the middle of the charade, it is going to give you away. If, on the other hand, you've had lots of practice faking it, your act may be fairly convincing making it difficult for even a long term partner to differentiate between a real orgasm and a phony one.

Now comes the real question. Why do it? Not every woman does, and many women only do it once in a blue moon, yet why is still a valid question. There are many different reasons, from complex to simple that would inspire a woman to fake an orgasm. One might be that she has never had an orgasm and is too shy to tell her partner, so she just goes on pretending that everything is all right. This is sad, ladies, but unfortunately true. The number of inorgasmic women is shockingly high and often times her partner doesn't even realize it.

Many women fake it because her partner is trying so hard to please her and it just isn't doing anything for her. So in this instance rather than risking disappointing or hurting them, she would rather feign pleasure. This martyr like approach to sex runs rampant in the bedrooms of North America. Here he is king of his castle, thinking that he is doing a great job - a regular Don Juan, and you can't bear to hurt his ego; but on the other hand, how can you look at his little eager, pleasing face and lie right to it?

Some women have much simpler reasons for leading their partners to believe that they are satisfied when, in fact, they are not. For example, suppose a woman's partner wishes to have sex and she isn't really interested due to fatigue, illness or one among a huge variety of stresses besetting females today. In this instance she may simply relent, as it is often easier than arguing, and put on a show in order to get to the finale as quickly as possible. This is a strange kind of compromise, but both people ultimately end up with what they want. Or do they?

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