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Ménage a Trios
Chapter 2
The next difficulty in this proposition is finding an extra person
that will be willing to accommodate you and your partner, or two
people to accommodate you if you don't want your them to be involved.
Often times, people are generally uncomfortable with inviting anyone
from their circle of friends or acquaintances, as most couples or
individuals usually want to keep this activity a secret. It is hardly
appropriate to start asking strangers in the grocery store or local
pub though. Most often, it is easiest to put a classified ad in
the personals section in the paper, or find out about underground
local swingers magazines or clubs. Once you become part of the scene,
you may make acquaintances or friends with other couples or individuals
with similar lifestyles. On the other hand, some people choose to
hire a prostitute, as this will better protect their anonymity.
As with all sexual relations with new partners, ensure you protect
yourself and use a condom. You should also determine whether your
experiment, if with someone other than your partner, is worth the
potential risk of them finding out and the ensuing fallout.
There is no real code of sexual conduct that makes certain activities
or sexual behaviors "right" or "wrong". Many
people find that having a ménage a trois is immoral or sinful,
depending on your personal and/or religious convictions. Just because
in our current society's climate, it is taboo, doesn't necessarily
mean that it is wrong. As long as all parties are consensual and
proper precautions are being taken to prevent the transmission of
sexually transmitted diseases, then there is really no reason it
should be considered "bad". Just take a look back to more
ancient times when drunken orgies were the norm. The pendulum of
sexual promiscuousness swings back and forth, and at this time,
we are in the midst of a more conservative cycle.
More importantly, you must take into consideration the emotional
side of things. While some people can keep love and sex tucked away
into separate compartments, most people can't. In most cases the
two are interconnected to some degree. It is important to evaluate
whether engaging in a ménage a trois with your partner is
likely to cause strain in your relationship. Will feelings of jealousy
arise in either party? Will a degree of trust or respect be lost?
Will it cause you or your partner to have feelings of inadequacy
or a loss of self-confidence? Discussing these issues with your
partner beforehand is always good idea.
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